7 Ways To Remember Birthdays

You probably know people who seem to always remember your birthday, and who probably remember the birthdays of all their friends too. Everybody likes to be remembered on their birthdays, and so these wonderful souls who remember yours are likely to be well-loved because they make you feel so good on your special day. If [...]

Relax Your Hold On Things

Why do we cling on to people and things in our life? Tibetan Buddhism talks about the futility of grasping at impermanence, yet that is exactly what so many of us do with our earthly attachments. We cling on to material possessions like houses and cars in our need for security, comfort, or status. We [...]

Smile Because It Happened

Getting over a broken relationship is never easy. You torture yourself with “what if”s, analyse the signs you should have seen, and wonder if you will ever trust again. And then of course there is the emotional pain that never seems to go away. The unbearable loneliness you feel during the long dark nights is [...]

Honour Your Needs

Sometimes you can be too good. You can give of yourself to others, let go of expectations, love like it’s never going to hurt and basically be a saint. Well, saints are human too and so are you. You have needs and will wilt slowly if your needs are not met. This does neither yourself nor the people around you any good.

The key to honouring your needs are to make sure that they are truly needs and not mere desires, finding ways to meet those needs yourself, and asking nicely if you want another person to help meet your needs. Read more…

Let Go Of Expectations

The one thing that shatters relationships and ruins friendships more than any other is expectations. When we say that someone is not meeting our ‘needs’, we usually mean that he is not living up to our expectations. True needs are very few, but expectations are limitless.

When a person’s behaviour does not match your expectations, you can try to change their behaviour, or you could let go of your expectations. The first is an exercise in frustration and causes untold damage to relationships. The second is also difficult, but possible and worthwhile. Learn to let go. Read more…

Be A Lofty Love Goddess

Are you one of those women who goes completely ga-ga when you fall in love, morphing from a sensible, rational, respectable woman into a panic-stricken, blabbering, drivelling mess? Well, it’s time to morph back. Pick up the shreds of your self-esteem from all over the floor and read on. photo credit: Valerie Everett 1. You [...]

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