Personal Integrity (Staying Sane in the Midst of Chaos)

One of the reasons I keep blogging is that somewhere someone sometimes breathes just a little bit easier because of what I write. This post is in response to a reader’s email on how to maintain personal integrity in a challenging workplace.

Office politics, power play, personality conflicts, conflicting instructions… the best of us get [...]

Your 24 Possible Personal Strengths

Many people feel frustrated because they are not using their personal strengths to make a living or contribute to the world.
If I asked you “what are your personal strengths?” would you be able to answer with conviction? If so, are you already using those strengths in the work that occupies most of your waking [...]

Dear Life Coaches

I’ve started a new blog called Dear Life Coaches.
The purpose of Dear Life Coaches is to bring life coaches together with those seeking life coaching but don’t know which life coach they want to work with.
What prompted me to set up this blog was noticing that some bloggers get asked for guidance but are not [...]

Back to the Start: Why You Do What You Do

It happens to the best of us as we journey through life: we occasionally lose our way.
We start out full of zest in a new job, a new relationship, a new business, a new blog… and then after a while we wonder why we do what we do.
If you find yourself in this position, go [...]

Who Is Your Ideal Reader?

Stephen King uses the concept of the “Ideal Reader” in his book On Writing. While he was giving advice specifically for writers, this is a useful device to use for living in general.
An Ideal Reader is the person you write for. This is the one person you most want to impress with your work. Ironically, [...]

Just Keep Showing Up

Despair is familiar to many people, especially those involved in creative efforts like writing. Whether you are writing a book or a blog, you have probably wondered if anyone is reading your work. Often it feels like you’re merely flinging out endless words to a world that frankly doesn’t care.
Elizabeth Gilbert – author of the [...]

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  • Comments by Readers

  • B @ logos coaching: What a great list. I am especially drawn to number 2 as I am incorporating more silence and quiet time into my life at present....
  • Kit: I’ve found that real change and lasting weight loss happens slowly, and is VERY frugal. 25lbs over the last 6 mos may be slow, but...
  • Beaulotus: Hi Daphne, it’s precisely that – that they didn’t have anything better to do with their time and lives. Those few mums...
  • Beaulotus: Daphne, it was interesting reading this wonderful post. As you may know, I socialise alot in our expat community and we have mothers...
  • Paul Maurice Martin: “Declining to play” has been an important one for me – I think of it as letting go of the egoism of others....
  • Self Improvement Minded: “Keep the company of the wise” that’s how we always said 4 when I was young.
  • Lana-{Daring Clarity}: Those were great points Daphne, thank you. And I so loved how you started that the reason you “keep blogging is that...
  • nudgeme: Great pointers on maintaining personal integrity Daphne, and always lovely to log on and see a post from you! Identifying your...
  • Self-esteem Building: I agree that our thinking gives positive or negative meaning to a certain event, person etc. Nature is neutral. It’s...
  • Hilary: Hi Daphne .. good points .. adopt a hero – yourself – ensure you smile, be kind, be open, be friendly .. Draw the boundaries is...
  • J.D. Meier: Beautiful distillations … heroes, boundaries, and buddies are the way to go. It takes less energy to be yourself than be somebody...
  • Lance: Hi Daphne, Number 4 is an important one for me. It’s so easy for other people’s attitudes to filter over into our own –...
  • Mazhar Nawaz: Dear Daphne enjoyed reading every word. I appreciate your honest views on Live Like You’ll Die Tomorrow.
  • Walter: Yes, I believe with what you have written here. In fact, I’m applying most of them into my life. There are lot of ways to be happy,...
  • Lindsey Petersen: I am a die hard optimist who leads a happy life even when I should be sad…an anomaly, I guess! Lindsey Petersen...
  • Hilda: Hi Daphne, I’ve read ALOT on the subject of happiness over the years, and have transformed myself from a miserable pessimist to a...
  • macy_c: I used to trust my instinct a bit more, but overtime, self doubt and life in general erode the trust. I just wrote an account of when I...
  • Evelyn Lim: I have found more meaning in my life when I started contributing my assistance and service to others. In the process, I become happier...
  • James Gray: When you say that good and bad aren’t “out there,” it isn’t clear what that means. I don’t know if anyone...
  • nudgeme: Hi Daphne Lovely to see a post on Joyful days in my Google Reader this morning – and such an uplifting one at that! I concur with...