Comments on: Are Enlightenment and Intimacy Compatible? http://www.joyfuldays.com/enlightenment-and-intimacy/ How to find happiness and abundance through personal development. Create a life you love and live on your own terms. Start today to become a better, happier, richer person a week from now. Thu, 11 Mar 2010 18:29:08 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8 hourly 1 By: Daphne http://www.joyfuldays.com/enlightenment-and-intimacy/#comment-15723 Daphne Sat, 12 Dec 2009 05:56:19 +0000 http://www.joyfuldays.com/?p=2064#comment-15723 Cindy, Your expression "we don't want people or things, we want the feeling we mistake them for" struck me at once as being the very crux of attachment. I totally agree with you that once we identify what feeling we really want, we can give this to ourselves without relying on others to do so. This is true detachment. Great that you wrote a book about it - I'll check it out, though I have to apologise for spending much less time blogging than I used to, hence this very late comment, and so I don't know when I'll actually get round to reading those chapters. Thanks for dropping by. Cindy,

Your expression “we don’t want people or things, we want the feeling we mistake them for” struck me at once as being the very crux of attachment. I totally agree with you that once we identify what feeling we really want, we can give this to ourselves without relying on others to do so. This is true detachment. Great that you wrote a book about it – I’ll check it out, though I have to apologise for spending much less time blogging than I used to, hence this very late comment, and so I don’t know when I’ll actually get round to reading those chapters. Thanks for dropping by.

]]> By: Cindy http://www.joyfuldays.com/enlightenment-and-intimacy/#comment-14709 Cindy Sun, 22 Nov 2009 16:27:03 +0000 http://www.joyfuldays.com/?p=2064#comment-14709 Daphne, Thank-you so much for raising these questions! After a transformative experience this April, I detached from the outside. I learned we don't want people or things, we wanted the feeling we mistake them for, and that we can give it to ourselves anytime. Since then I have lived in freedom, peace, love and even ecstasy (as a single). It is said that the discovery of a treasure is a lesser joy than sharing it, and so I wrote a book about it. (Awakening Joy). Old-mind, which sometimes still rises (unattached) asks, relationship? What for? I am swimming in new waters and asking similar questions as you. I would love to hear your comments on the book (you can get the first several chapters free), and to continue this exploration... Daphne,
Thank-you so much for raising these questions! After a transformative experience this April, I detached from the outside. I learned we don’t want people or things, we wanted the feeling we mistake them for, and that we can give it to ourselves anytime. Since then I have lived in freedom, peace, love and even ecstasy (as a single). It is said that the discovery of a treasure is a lesser joy than sharing it, and so I wrote a book about it. (Awakening Joy). Old-mind, which sometimes still rises (unattached) asks, relationship? What for? I am swimming in new waters and asking similar questions as you. I would love to hear your comments on the book (you can get the first several chapters free), and to continue this exploration…

]]> By: Cindy http://www.joyfuldays.com/enlightenment-and-intimacy/#comment-14708 Cindy Sun, 22 Nov 2009 16:15:58 +0000 http://www.joyfuldays.com/?p=2064#comment-14708 "Why would you detach from feeling angry and hurt?" That sounds as if the emotion would be being stuffed or ignored. You can see or know the emotion, and choose to change it. Suffering serves no purpose but to awaken you to joy, to the freedom of who you are. Detachment means to not be dragged around, up or down, by outside circumstances. And believe me, it is an experience worth seeking. “Why would you detach from feeling angry and hurt?”

That sounds as if the emotion would be being stuffed or ignored. You can see or know the emotion, and choose to change it. Suffering serves no purpose but to awaken you to joy, to the freedom of who you are.

Detachment means to not be dragged around, up or down, by outside circumstances. And believe me, it is an experience worth seeking.

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