Comments on: Can We Grow into Selflessness?

By: Links for August

Links for August — Mon, 31 Aug 2009 17:02:13 +0000

[...] Can We Grow into Selflessness? – My answer was “not necessarily.” What’s yours? [...]

By: Daphne

Daphne — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 06:36:52 +0000

@ Barbara,

Great point about people acting selfless for selfish reasons – to feel better about themselves for example, to appease a low self-esteem etc.

@ Evelyn,

I’m amazed that I actually posted about dog poo too! Yes, self-love is important if we want to love others, and selflessness comes from that love. Thanks for your cheerful comment!

@ Darren,

“We extremes” is a nice way of putting it! For one period of my life I tried to be selfless because of idealistic reasons, and it killed me! Figuratively of course. You’re right that there’s probably a halfway point, or maybe we’re not extreme enough? When we love ourselves so much more, perhaps we become selfless too. I’ll head over to read your posts, to see things from a different perspective.

By: Darren Sproat

Darren Sproat — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 06:27:01 +0000

I read some of the comments about people being selfish, including you ;), and it relates to some of my recent posts. I come from a position of selflessness to almost the extreme of forgetting about my own needs and placing the needs of others ahead of my own… this too is not a position to be proud of as I would often attempt to carry the weight of the world on my shoulders and sacrifice my own health and well-being in the process.
The thing we extremes need to find is the balance of selfishness and selflessness.

Thanks for the wonderful read,
Darren