I’ve replied to you in an email, hope you received it. It’s tough when someone so close to you seems to have a dislike for you. I’m amazed at your patience, having lived with this quietly for years. I’m not sure what your exact circumstances are so it’s hard to give advice. If you think you can both handle a calm chat about it, perhaps that is a good way to understand each other better.

Maybe we could take this further off-line via emails?

I have had this gut feeling for years that someone in my life does not like me, yet he does not make the dislike obvious, its subtle, and I have suffered in silence with this situation for years. I cannot understand why he is this way with me, I am just, a regular type of person, no trouble etc, yet I feel he harbors distance/hostility toward me.This person is my brother-in-law and I think he is not open with me because he wants to keep the peace for my sister, yet the effect it has on me is crushing, my inner self tells me he dislikes me. A few years ago, I actually brought it up with my sister, I discussed what I felt was going on, from her reaction, I felt she knew something but it was just swept under the carpet and it was not sorted out – what I wanted to happen. Here I am some four years later and I still get these subtle vibes.

Ok, if he doesnt care for me, I can live with that, but this constant uncertainty I can not.It feels like a form of psychological abuse, cruel.

Can someone please give me some positive feedback about this?